What is a relationship? I’m talking any kind of relationship. Love, friendship, family. What makes a relationship? I think there is an element of support for one another. something like "i may not agree with what you say or do but I love you anyways," kinda thing. is there too much leeway there? anyways, two individuals running their own courses but checking in on each other along the way. apparently this is an idea foreign to many people (?) friends, family, boyfriends...no one seems to agree with me in this respect. even my dad told me to get over this. everyone is selfish. they only care about themselves. there is no sense of community. i can't believe this! i simply can't. is my dad too cynical? am i believing what he says and, in turn, becoming cynical about relationships myself? maybe this thought is a product of our modern age. technology has opened the doors to many new ideas, people, and places. but, is it making us anonymous? i think there is a space for us to create ourselves within technology but, at the same time, it disconnects us. there's minimal face time. minimal need for a commitment. i feel so many people have become unfocused thanks to google. don't get me wrong, i love google. i love the internet. but, the quickness at our fingertips...has it made the rest of our lives quick and unfocused?
are we creating more of a void in our lives by filling it with more information, people, and places? this makes me sound like anti-internet and anti-technology. this is not the case. i am worried about the lack of community. people feeling disassociated. Should we be looking to focus on the ideas, the actions, the places that make us happy separate from others? is this selfish?
But – I like having others in the mix. is my cynicism about relationships stemming from not fully enjoying the relationship I’m having with myself? that’s not true! That is just not true. I love hanging out with myself! I think it's the more the merrier. It makes things interesting. and this is what i need. but maybe not what others need. and so, my question again, what makes a relationship? because if community is something i need, but others don't, then how am i allowed to be selfish and fulfill my needs? does that make sense?
this question of relationships intrigues me....
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